Saturday 25 February 2017

Ways To Secure Your Wife From Strange Men by WSpices (aka Hephzibah Oyinda)

Ways To Secure Your Wife From Strange Men by WSpices (aka Hephzibah Oyinda): 18:52pm On Feb 25, 2017

Prologue: I saw a post from someone called MSpices on Aishatu's wall titled "Ways To Secure Your Husband From Strange Women". I decided to mirror the post by changing every " he" to "she", " husband " to "wife" and vice versa. I hope you like it. Enjoy...

Strange Men

The world is increasingly going through the challenges of modernization throwing up pressure to marriages. Smart phones and other IT devices are delivering nudes, new wave of friendship down to the bedrooms of people. A woman could be talking with her husband in the bedroom while she’s chatting with another man without the knowledge of her husband. All these have piled up pressures on husbands seeking to have stable marriages. Here are some ways to secure your wife from strange men and secure your marriage.

Serve Her What She Likes
During jokes or conversations, your wife would have told you what she likes and without being told, a husband should know what his wife likes. It is your duty to please her when it is within your power to do so. Some wives love telenovellas to the extent that they go outside to watch with their friends.

Hear this testimony: This man said his wife was always leaving the house to watch Telemundo outside and the Spirit said to him he could make her watch it at home and wisdom came. He asked her the next time the telenovella was showing and she told him. He prepared for that day, bought her kind of drink and put it in the fridge and fried some chicken.

On that day, as the wife was about going out again, he told her he was going to watch Telemundo with her and she reluctantly agreed to watch at home. The telenovella started and they were watching. Later, he brought in her best drink and some fried chicken. She was surprised at the husband. He analyzed the telenovella so well, she was shocked. Actually, he had read about the telenovella on the internet and crammed all the names and their stories. She was so impressed. From that day onwards, she stayed at home.

If you can get her to stay at home most of the time, she will lose interest in other men. That will be your assignment. Every woman has a soft spot and only a wise husband can know that.

Some wives love sex. Hear this. A man said while we were discussing that his wife can never date another man. I was shocked and asked him what he meant. He said he discovered that his wife likes men and probably has men outside. He decided to go out of his way to really please her sexually. In the morning while she was dressing for work, he would invite her for sex and satisfy her. He really gave it to her every time that he observed she no longer hides to receive calls and stayed at home most of the time. She even confessed when the other men disturbed her so much. According to him, there was a day she told him she could never do without him and requested if he would travel with her on official trip for a seminar, he gladly obliged her. That was how he regained his wife to himself.
I was in disbelief that a man could go all the length to fight for his woman.

Man, you too can be led be the Holy Spirit. Everything is not fight and quarrel. I have had course to tell some men seeking divorce, even if you leave her and remarry, you would eventually be faced with the other woman’s challenge. Divorce is not the answer in most cases.

Escort her to the gate
Always try to escort her to the car or the gate and tell her ‘my angel is watching over you. Go and return to me safely. I love you’ then give her a kiss. Never leave your wife without a kiss in the public or private. Those prophetic words are arrows fired into the air and will not return to you void without fulfilling its purpose. We have a weapon in our mouth. We shouldn’t use it to destroy our families but rather use it to build them.

Don’t be too careless not to be observant
Men are talented in this area that they can sense another man’s intention towards their women unless they choose to ignore it. In most cases, the women hardly know or see it. The women always think it is a harmless hug, or friendship and not until it manifests before they begin to realize that their husbands were right after all.
The challenge here is that most men are unable to manage the situation due to their emotions. My advice is simple, if you observe that a particular man is too close to your wife, make friends with him and try to offer him what help he needs that draws him close to your wife. If it is prayer, pray with him. If it is counsel, sit down to understand his situation and counsel him. If it is money or other things within your power, give to him and you would be surprised you have rescued your wife. Man to man, he would understand your intentions and stay clear.
Don’t be too careless and say she is a Christian and she can take care of the situation. Some women of God have fallen to this trick and their ministries ruined. This counsel is particularly good for husbands of ordained ministers and pastors because of their assignment in the house of God. Husbsnds should help their wives stay focused to their marriage, calling or assignment.

Don’t let jealousy take the better part of you
You must tame that leopard called jealousy. It has a way of roaring without control in men, so that things don't go out of hand. If your wife suspects you are jealous, she will watch your every move. Take control of the situation.

Source:
http://marriagespices.com/5-ways-secure-husband-strange-women (But edited and posted on my Facebook wall, Facebook page and blog)
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Monday 20 February 2017

Dear Church: It’s Time to Stop Enabling Abusive Men

Gary Thomas

I recently spoke at a long-standing North American woman’s conference and was overwhelmed by the quantity and horrific nature of things wives are having to put up with in their marriages. Between sessions, I was bombarded by heartfelt inquiries: “What does a wife do when her husband does this? Or that? Or keeps doing this?” It broke my heart. I felt like I needed to take a dozen showers that weekend.

This may sound like a rant, but please hang with me, as I think this conference was a divine appointment. I can’t get this out of my mind.

One wife began our conversation with, “God hates divorce, right?”

“Yes,” I said. “I believe He does.”

“So I’ve just got to accept what’s happening in my marriage, right?”

When she told me what was happening, I quickly corrected her. “If the cost of saving a marriage is destroying a woman, the cost is too high. God loves people more than he loves institutions.”

Her husband is a persistent porn addict. He has neglected her sexually except to fulfill his own increasingly bent desires. He keeps dangling divorce over her head, which makes her feel like a failure as a Christian. He presented her with a list of five things he wanted to do that he saw done in porn, and if she wasn’t willing, he was through with the marriage. She agreed to four of them, but just couldn’t do the fifth. And she feels guilty.

God hates divorce, right?

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Saturday 18 February 2017

HOW IS YOUR MARRIAGE DOING FINANCIALLY?

I came across this post about money counseling for couples and I think it's worth sharing. If you're having marital problems, you may want to check this out.
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Throughout my years in the financial services industry, I have noticed that money counseling and marriage counseling often go hand in hand. One of my good friends, Leslie Webb, is a psychologist and will frequently send me her clients to help them budget and examine other underlying financial issues that may be causing their relationship stress.

To put it simply, in her own words, “If these financial issues don’t come to light, the marriage is doomed.”

So, how do you know if your problems are money related? It is not always obvious whether you need marriage counseling or money counseling but, here are some common warning signs that your relationship might be in financial trouble:

1. One partner handles the money, while the other wants nothing to do with it.

When it comes to managing household finances, both partners should be involved, or at least be aware of where money is being spent. Leslie and I are both currently experiencing an epidemic of clients who have mentioned that, within their relationships, one partner manages the finances and the other never looks into what he or she is doing. Societally, we used to view men as being responsible for a couple’s finances, but this is no longer the case. Both partners should have a role in managing money.

2. You have separate bank accounts.

If you both want to keep an eye on your money, separate bank accounts might seem like a good idea, but they can actually cause a lot of financial stress in a relationship. Managing money should be a joint effort, and separate accounts do not allow you to work together as well. Having separate accounts can lead to one partner hiding expenses or debts from another and can create animosity, because there is usually going to be judgment against how one partner is spending.

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Monday 13 February 2017

Nigeria Has The Highest Maternal Mortality Rate In The World

With 2,300 children below five years of age and 145 child-bearing women dying every day, Nigeria has the highest maternal mortality rate in the world, it was learnt yesterday.

Citing the report of the United Nations Children Education Fund (UNICEF), the Chairman, Senate Committee on Health, Senator Lanre Tejuosho, at a press briefing in National Assembly, said women and children had become endangered species.

He lamented that despite different kinds of ailments and diseases plaguing the citizens, annual budgetary allocations to the health sector have continued to decrease, a move he said the current National Assembly would reverse.

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Friday 10 February 2017

NACC appoints Joyce Akpata as DG

The National President, Nigerian-American Chamber of Commerce, Chief Bintan Famutimi, has announced Mrs. Joyce Akpata as the new Director-General of the chamber.

According to a statement, Akpata studied Law at the University of Abuja.

Called to the Nigerian Bar after graduating from the Nigerian Law School with a 2nd Class Upper Division, she won several “coveted” prizes at the Nigerian Law School.

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Wednesday 8 February 2017

How Facebook Almost Destroyed My Marriage

Guest blogger Dawn wanted to share with you how Facebook was used to hurt and damage her marriage. 


A few months back my husband came home from work and told me about how he had asked the wife of an old high school buddy if her husband had email(on Facebook). The wife soon told him they were divorced, but it didn’t end there. She went on about how she was sexually abused and abused by him and then she remarried someone else and he sexually abused her daughter. My husband told me all of this conversation.  I told my husband to be careful because she was giving too much intimate information and she could be trying to suck him into her life.
My husband, feeling very secure in our loving wonderful marriage of 12 years said I was right and he would be careful.
Well, unknown to me the conversations kept going and going.  My husband says he thought he was helping her by listening. She just kept sucking him in by heaping on the personal information.  After awhile I started having this strange feeling that something wasn’t right. I had my husband’s password to his account (because we trust each other and wanted to be accountable) on Facebook. So about 11:30am during the weekday(with a strong feeling), I logged on his account and looked at his messages.  What I didn’t realize was he was chatting with her right then! I stopped breathing for a second, I felt my whole world spin out of control.
This is what I read.
“I’m sorry you’re hurting” my husband we will call him Jack (not his real name)
“I hurt all the time, people have said they love me but they don’t really.” the woman I will call her Sue (not her real name)
“I love you” Jack
“I wish I was with you, I have been hurt so much” Sue
“I just want to hold you in my arms and carry you close to me” Jack “You are my everything. I want to make everything alright for you.”
“I wish I could hear your voice right now and feel your arms” Sue
“I’m singing to you right now. “You are my sunshine my only sunshine you make me happy when skies are blue you never know dear how much I love you…” Jack
This is where I called him and told he was a cheat and yelled at him. I called him a cheat, a liar and I don’t know what else. I was so angry and devastated. I was still in front of the computer and as I was talking to him he wrote to her…
“I got to go somehow my wife found our conversations I deleted. I will talk later. Love you.” Jack
Sue wrote, “Uh oh, you’re in trouble now.”
I wondered what was in the deleted conversations?


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